Topic: Proposals and Engagements
How does Indonesia mark Proposals and Engagements?
Everyday topic
Engagement in Indonesia — the lamaran or khitbah — is the occasion at which one family formally asks and the other formally accepts, usually held at home and accompanied by seserahan, a full set of gifts prepared for the other side. The engagement is not marriage in law; what the law requires is the registration that follows. At community level, though, the relationship is publicly recognised from the lamaran onward. Since the 2019 amendment, the minimum marriage age is nineteen for everyone. In Indonesia, therefore, a gap of time sits between the lamaran and the later registration: community recognition comes first, legal recognition after.
What is this topic?
An engagement is not a marriage. Taiwan sets engagement at 17 and marriage at 18, and a promise to marry cannot be forced; Indonesia sets the minimum marriage age at 19 for both sexes, with lamaran serving first as public family recognition. Mainland Chinese disputes often concern the return of bride price, Japan has no dedicated engagement statute, India is shaped by personal laws, Brazil allows free marriage at 18, and US ring disputes are handled state by state. This guide compares social meaning, family negotiation, consent, and legal weight.
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